How we behave towards others is not so much our decision rather it is backed by one of our primitive instincts: “the social instinct”. For ancient humans survival instincts were most critical of all other instincts because they confronted several different challenges that threatened their survival.
There is a duality within each of us, we think that we intentionally control our actions, but our behavior is far from reasoned and intentioned. Within each one of us, there are two beings: 1. Reasoned being 2. Instinctive being. Both of them compete for controlling our actions and the instinctive being wins. Two different parts of the brain (primitive and higher brain) control these two different beings.
Do you intentionally put off things and delay them until the last moment, and then do it in a rush? If yes, then you are a procrastinator. Procrastinators don’t put things off accidentally or unconsciously rather they do it deliberately, they know that they will be worse off for delaying it, still they engage in activities other than they must do, or they plan to do. When you procrastinate you kill your quality time, you get demotivated, and you get caught in guilt and pressure, and you get disappointed because you are not able to complete what you are supposed to. Chronic procrastination is not only a killer of your precious time, but also a major demotivator that drains your motivation and adversely affects other areas of your life too.
We like to put ourselves in others’ shoes. We are programmed for friendliness. Even Hunter-gatherer societies used to believe in cooperative exchanges and social alliances.